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Dating The Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You |
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| Author: Christie Hartman Published: 2007-03-01 |
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List price: $14.95 Our price: $10.17 |
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Customer comments on this selection. Single in LAI've read this book twice and I wanted to write a review because I found reading other women's experiences with a book and applying their personal situations to it very helpful. This book is not as breezy and whimsical as other self-help books on dating a "divorced/divorcing" man with kids, but it is very thorough, sympathetic and right on about a lot of things that we women go through (in my case, dating a "divorcing" man, which is the riskiest of them all!) Before I read the book, I was mostly confused, insecure, and frustrated about always coming second to his kids and his divorce; always waiting for the phone to ring and not sure whether I could have a weekend getaway or a holiday with my man. I wanted more - but felt I couldn't demand more because I didn't want to add more pressure in his life. And when I just didn't care and went on with my life (work, friends, hobbies and travels) I felt guilty! I felt I was abandoning him, during the time when he needed me the most. Wrong! Rather than feeling bad all the time, the book taught me how to be true to myself and put "me" first. To put enough distance to see where his divorce ends up (not get involved with all the messy details...) and to not push things too soon. Compared to other self help books on the subject, the author never wants you to become second best; to be disrespected at any time or to be taken for granted...you should be treated an equal, especially once the relationship takes a serious turn. Kids need parenting and time and effort, totally understandable. But you shouldn't compromise your own needs for them. In a nutshell, the author gives women more value than what they feel they deserve. I will never forget her input/output notion: if the input far outweighs the output then maybe the relationship is not worth it. And if you will go through all the challenges and struggles of dating a divorced/divorcing man...he should be "fabulous" and totally worth it. This was great and helped me muddle through all the confusion. Good bookNice info. If you are dating with separated,divorcing or divorced man. This book is really make you clear understanding what situation you are. and what next. And you will know whether wasting your time dating this man. Puts you in the right headspaceThis book covers the psychology of dating a divorced man and is spot on target at helping you discover what you need and if he can provide it. A great place to start your education into the world of family court. If you do decide to date him, or marry him, your next step would be my book, "Every Single Girl's Guide To Her Future Husband's Last Divorce," which covers the legal and financial aspects and makes a perfect pairing with this book. Spot-on!I am surprised this book does not have many reviews. I have found it to be SPOT ON and exceptionally useful. I recently began dating a man who represented himself as being near the end of his divorce. His behavior was frustrating and baffling to me. This book very clearly identified the problems I was experiencing and what my options were for handling them. I am much more level-headed now and have a much better grip on the situation. Ironically, I also identified a co-worker who has leaned on me heavily over the past two years while he has struggled to keep his marriage together, while considering getting out. The book identifies him as a "Mr. Wait-and-See" and says don't waste your time with these users and cowards. Although I didn't waste my romantic energies on this man, I did let him waste a lot of time in general listening to him whine about the issues he doesn't have the guts to address. This book is a MUST READ for anyone considering dating a man who is either separated, divorcing, divorced or still married but shopping for a girlfriend. Great for single dads and moms!This is an excellent book for divorced men and women. It shows that we all are experiencing similar issues and dating a single man with kids is challenging. I think this is a book that all divorced men and women should read! |
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