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10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love |
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| Author: Joe Kort Published: 2006-03-01 |
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List price: $15.95 Our price: $10.85 |
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Customer comments on this selection. Every newly out guy should have this bookYes, this book deals a lot with baggage issues, but it will help you work through your issues and get a better understanding of why gay men flake out etc. This is a great 'intro to being gay' book. Although I've been out for a few years, I'd still recommend it to anyone who wants to better themselves for a relationship. Another valuable piece of info herein is the 3 stages of a relationship, which is important if you have one or get one and treasure it enough to make it work. Joe tells the stories of numerous clients to make his points, so that keeps it interesting. I'm very much not a reader, but I highly recommend this book!  Excellent bookI've been doing workshops for a men's group here in New York and this book as well as Mr. Kort's previous text have been excellent resources. Not only the scenarios but the root causes of why men develop as they do in relationship to their sexuality are excellent. The referencing to Erik Erikson and Harville Hendrix (tests I also utilize) as well as the specific application of the tomes to activities and insights is stellar. What surprise dme most about the book was how it balanced accessible language and yet was able to present enough psychological/psychiatric/therapeutic language/technique for the lay person to understand. A lot of the "why's" about men and sexuality and actions and integrity or lack thereof was answered. One of the things I constantly do in my groups now is remind the men how they were socialized as boys, how it was enforced/beaten out of them not to portray their sexuality or sexual thoughts/interests and how this indoctrination carries over and manifests itself in adult life. You can literally watch the lightbulbs of enlightenment go off in the heads of the men as they start to link simple things like sit still, don't flounce, don't sigh, don't cry, don't whine, don't, don't don't---in order to be masculine/a "man" to being what caused a lot of confusion. What happens to someone who's identity is constantly challenged, taunted, corrected---they adopt an identity that is pleasing to the masses, however they are then thrust into a society where the two identites--one false and one repressed are incongruous and therefore enter into a lifestyle that has very few mature standards/practices. Suddenly men make sense! I've already gone on to Mr. kort's site and plan on finding a way to travel across the country to attend his workshops and I have made both of his books a staple in my workshops and college level classes. If you're stuck in bad dates, bad relationships, unhappy with your lifestyle's results, confused about what to do now that you've declared a sexuality, this book is key in helping the normal person "feel normal" abotu their identity. One day this and perhaps half a dozen books will be prescribed in schools around teh country to not simply help men (and women) figure out this nebulous/variable area of sexuality (sexual orientation and sexual behaviour two entire different things) to the point of identity satisfaction. My only criticism of the book would be that it had another 200 pages in it that could've been created to outline more couples/individuals to illustrate a variety of issues. Ok, that would make it easier for me to break it down for others and teach but the intellectual density of this book made me want to have some parts that were snippets and could be used outside of the larger chapters. |
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