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Christian Men Who Hate Women |
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| Author: Margaret Rinck Published: 1990-06-11 |
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List price: $12.99 Our price: $10.39 |
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Customer comments on this selection. Must ReadThis book is absolutely a must read for any person in a leadership position in a Church. More people in the Church need to be aware of this pattern of abuse, and provide a safe harbor for women seeking help. I was not only terrified of my husband, I was judged and criticized by the very people that should have helped me. I had no voice to speak up. This book encouraged me to find my voice and make a better life for myself. I have shared this book with others and have seen the powerful difference it has made in their lives, both men and women. This is not about men-bashing or blaming men. It is about both men and women breaking the cycle of blame and shame. It is about being treated with dignity and respect. Thank you Dr. Rinck for being the voice of the abused and providing a tool for recovery. Took the breath right outta meI bought this book because of an issue I was going through (not with my sweet husband!)...and I was so surprised at the frank honesty and eye opening accounts given in this slim paperback novel. As I read, I could see certain men playing out in my mind, and understanding now, their cruel behavior...they HATE women. Sigh. this book should be a must read by anyone who offers counselling services (pastors, lay pastors, deacons, etc). Additionally, it would be a good elective read for young people in highschool/college. I am better for having read it.... Havent read yet but orderedActually I havent read this book but ordered it. I do think that the "Christian" men have a point of view instead of just being portrayed as cold etc. You have to figure Christ, the figure who represents the religion, is shown as never having married so he cant be the role model as he gives no advice how he got along with his wife. So "Christian" men are basically just a product of their environment, which is post-industrial society. Women are seen as objects because men have seen untold advertisements telling them so and also telling them women love being objects also. So to expect a loving, caring, thoughtful human being from a post industrial society that stresses male bonding through sports etc is asking a lot, if no the impossible.  However...No one wants to live in a genuinely abusive relationship, and no one should have to. With that said, women today categorize virtually anything that doesn't make them delirious with joy as being "abuse", and of course, it has to be the man's fault. If a woman is married, divorced, lesbian or on a deserted island, then all of her misery has to be the fault of some man somewhere. While the book does offer sound advice to those who are truly having problems, unfortunately it is just one of countless books on the market today that tell women to dump their husbands at the earliest opportunity when any problem arises. It reads just like many feminist books I have read on the subject of marriage, and will be at home next to books by the likes of Dworkin and other female authors that hate men passionately. Recently, the Barna group, a Christian research organization, did a large study and they found that the divorce rate amongst conservative Christian groups is extremely high; much higher in fact, than the divorce rate of atheists and agnostics. It shouldn't be surprising, really. Christian women are being subjected to the same brain-washing as society in general, and these days, they make for very poor marriage material. They not only will dump their husbands, and cheat on them with amazing frequency, but the will try and rationalize their sinful behavior by using the Bible, and if that fails, then by reading books like this one. I shudder to think how many marriages the author of this book has destroyed. I'm not referring to actual cases of abuse, but the types of minor problems that one used to work on, but today are grounds for divorce in the minds of most women. Why work on a problem when you can throw your husband out, and steal his children, his home and everything he has ever worked for? Sadly, this type of attitude is now prevalent among Christian women. How quickly they ignore what the Bible says about divorce, and how interesting that they ignore proverbs 31 and Ecclesiastes 7. It felt like the author lived in my houseI left my husband after a year of marriage where everything was my fault. He would have these outbursts of rage, break things, call me names, humiliate me. I was always walking on egg shells and felt so completely confused because he would then cry and say he was sorry. The worst part was that he demanded I forgive him. Which he believes means I have to completely forget the event ever took place. After I left him, I shared with a friend who told me I was being abused. I had no idea. I found this book on Dr. James Dobson's website. As soon as I started reading it I finally had the diagnosis. I felt a lot of relief and complete sadness. During the separation I asked my husband to read it because I had hoped he would understand and get help. He refused to read it because he didn't want to be labeled. It's very sad. I was hoping God would do a miracle because I knew my husband did not like his outbursts. Unfortunately, Dr. Rinck was right when she said that most won't acknowledge and just move on. I was praying that we would be the 5% that would get help, but he moved on within 5 months and is now in a full-blown affair. After I confronted him, he said he would leave her if I came back. OUCH. Once again showed me where his heart is. I filed for divorce the next day. It sucks that this book is so accurate. It's painful to read about the demise of your marriage. But I know God's ways are not my ways. I do pray that there might be some victory stories from this book and that your husband loves you enough to read it and get help. If not, then my heart breaks for you, like it's been breaking for my marriage. |
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